Some statistics show that 1-2% of adults between the ages of 20 and 50 are swingers. So, the next time you are at work, at the mall, or walking around town, know that there is probably another swinging couple around you. The challenge is to know who they are. Swingers are short, tall, black, white, thin, and full-figured. Remaining open to a wide variety of choices is the key to getting the most out of the swinger lifestyle.
With the broad diversity of swingers, the common ground shared by most is that they are committed couples. Successful swinging couples are able to differentiate between sex and love. They understand that an interest for sexual variety does not imply a lack of love for their partner. The swinger lifestyle provides a venue to explore fantasies not typically attainable in a traditional relationship.
In the lifestyle, women are free to explore their inner most desires with full support of their partner. Swinging is not cheating or having an affair. Swinging is about pursuing your sexual desires with other people while remaining committed as a couple.
So, if you do not have a partner, how can singles get into swinging? The good news is that single women have many options to join the lifestyle. Single females are highly sought after. Swinging couples will seek you out and single males are always looking for a partner. Guys are in plentiful supply. This is great for couples looking for another male to join in a threesome as they can afford to be very choosey. Men can enjoy the lifestyle, but they will need to put forth extra effort to be selected.
For men who treat swinging couples and single ladies with respect, they too can enjoy the lifestyle. First understand that in the swinger lifestyle, men are like desserts on a table- only the tastiest ones get selected. That means you need establish a good reputation. If invited for drinks or dinner, get the tab. If you are fortunate to be invited to their home, don’t come empty handed. Offer to bring something or surprise them with a nice bottle of wine. If you are meeting in a hotel, make the reservation and take care of the room charges. Lastly, men, always dress to impress.
If swingers can be almost anyone, how do you find them? Prior to the internet, one had to advertise in limited swinger publications and it was difficult making connections. Today, there are many websites catering to the swinger lifestyle. When choosing a site, select one that supports the entire lifestyle, not just swinger ads. Look for sites that include Interest Groups, forums, profiles, email, instant messaging, parties and events, swinger club directories, swinger stories, and blogs so you can fully explore your sexuality with swinging couples.